Ever had those embarassing moment when your friends played the matchmaker for you and someone else? Or friends who set you up for blind dates? What's even worse than that? They fussed over it the entire time and making it awkward for both of you. They might be well meaning but that's not really the way to do it.
I've been stucked in those situation so many times that I've lost count of them. Friends will come across guys that they thought are good enough for me and set me up. I don't mind if you don't make it so obvious. What shall I say to him?. "Hi ,nice to meet you. My friends think I'm so dry and desperate that they have to set me up with you. Just play along okay?". Embarassement was so overwhelming that my brain wasn't fully functional. Stressed! I felt like crawling under the table until it's over.
The situation worsen afterwards if the guy was highly recommended (it happens all the time, else your friends will never set you up in the first place. You'll received calls or SMS from your well meaning friends say, the next day? "How's Michael? Any sparks? He's a very nice guy you know?". WHOA! What do you expect?! I don't think sparks could really flies during those awkward moments. I don't even get to know him personally as I was too embarassed to talk. As usual, the friends will do all the talking. What was I doing then? Staring into my food, concentrated hard and I might as well make myself invisible and get away from it.
Personality is vital but sometimes I couldn't really bring myself to go beyond his appearance to really appreciate his inner beauty. I mean if that guy looked like Joker in the Batman movie or has skin like Freddy Krueger. I couldn't tell my friends that! I had to politely tell them to let the nature slowly takes its course to brush them off so that they'll never bother me about their friend again. I'm not discriminating anyone but there are something that can't be forced. Just because you think your friend is good doesn't mean that you can force me to accept him. Anyway, thanks for the effort my dear friends.I haven't reach that stage yet, if I do I will pester you guys for it. Nothing to worry yet. I'm still doing fine.
If one day, when I'm really that desperate, I'll put up a recruitment advertisement on the newspaper to look for a man.It will sounds like this:
MAN WANTED.PLEASE EMAIL YOUR RESUME TO firstname.lastname@example.org .
SHORTLISTED CANDIDATES WILL BE CALLED FOR A FACE TO FACE
INTERVIEW. PLEASE BRING YOUR SWIMMING TRUNK ALONG.LOL
1.PROOF OF INCOME
(to ensure that you can afford to provide for me)
(I need to know your spending patterns coz guys who spend a lot on their appearance usually love themselves more than me thus spending less on me)
3.FORMER GIRLFRIENDS'S DETAILS AND PICTURE
(if he had Victoria Secret models lookalike former girlfriends, that will have a huge impact on my self esteem)
4.DETAILS OF MOTHER OR SISTERS
( I don't want to have any conflict with any other possesive female in his life who think I'll take away their beloved son or brother and also to know if he's a MUMMY'S BOY which is very annoying)
5.LIST OF CLOSE BUDDIES
( for further investigation of his life and history or any trace of previous unrecruited love coz those can haunt the relationship)
( I don't want to spend my life with a guy who never seem the world, like the frog underneath the coconut shell)
7. EDUCATION QUALIFICATION AND MENSA SCORE
( I want a smart guy not dumb one)
Other term and condition : BEING GOOD LOOKING IS OPTIONAL BUT SMELLS NICE, TIDY AND NEAT