The girlfriend:
I have taste for better things in life
And don't expect me to lower them to accomodate you
I don't need to please any of your friends
The career woman:
You keep your mouth shut if you earn less than me
I may raise my voice at you and you'll obey me
The future wife:
Your money is my money
My money will always be mine
The wife:
I will dictate when I wanna have sex with you
You will eat what I cook
Always leave the toilet seat down
Or you'll need to learn how to pee sitting
The daughter in law:
It's none of your business how I spend my husband's money
Don't expect me to help with the chores, I'm not the maid
Life is like a box of chocolate.It could be sweet and it could be bitter too.It is a perplexing odyssey.
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Monday, November 28, 2011
Skeleton In The Closet
When things around you are moving ahead
You kicked yourself for moving so slow
Just when you almost do that
You realised that it's your own secret
You will always one step ahead
Ahead of everyone else
You can't stop chuckling with the thought of that
Some skeleton in the closet I shall say
You kicked yourself for moving so slow
Just when you almost do that
You realised that it's your own secret
You will always one step ahead
Ahead of everyone else
You can't stop chuckling with the thought of that
Some skeleton in the closet I shall say
Can You Read The Word "Narcissist" On My Forehead
I will never deny this. I'm a control freak, a pure narcissist. It's either my way or the highway. Things are to be done the way I want it, especially if I paid for it. The way you do it and the outcome down to the small details for example the arrangement of my wardrobe. It is to be color coded, pattern coded and also design coded. That's it, the ultimatum.
The narcissist in me is what drive my life to perfection. Everything needs to be in order and just the way I want them. It blew my top off when I expected things to be in place and they were just the opposite of what I wanted. Aarggh! It's driving me nuts!
People perceived me as distant, haughty and self-aggrandized. Part of me felt my narcissist streak is difficult too. If only I could be more contended and allow things go along with the flow, I maybe able to deal with less stress in my life. But I couldn't. Everything is planned down to the small details.
I feel insecure about the idea of things being out of my control. I feel that I'll have better gripe of my own destiny if everything's under my control. I may not be always right but this is the way I am.
The narcissist in me is what drive my life to perfection. Everything needs to be in order and just the way I want them. It blew my top off when I expected things to be in place and they were just the opposite of what I wanted. Aarggh! It's driving me nuts!
People perceived me as distant, haughty and self-aggrandized. Part of me felt my narcissist streak is difficult too. If only I could be more contended and allow things go along with the flow, I maybe able to deal with less stress in my life. But I couldn't. Everything is planned down to the small details.
I feel insecure about the idea of things being out of my control. I feel that I'll have better gripe of my own destiny if everything's under my control. I may not be always right but this is the way I am.
Monday, November 21, 2011
Social Anxiety Disorder
I can feel my heart beating faster and faster. My palms are already wet from the sweats. I'm going to step into this roomful of strangers and not-so-familiar people. It's a dangerous territory ahead. Oh my GOD...I just hate these social situation.
My shyness meter will suddenly going way up and it's more than usual. Mind goes blank and what are those 2 women staring at?! Are they talking about me? I bet they are. I feel so awkward now. Now everyone is looking at my direction. Oh dear, they must be scrutinizing everything about me. Voices are getting louder and my chest is getting tight now.
I can my blood drowning away from my head and my cheeks feel so cold. Feeling like a moron standing here. I have no idea whether to walk or stand or even where to look. Is the clock still ticking? That's it. Just run and get the hell out from here.
At least everything seems normal out here, except for me. I don't feel right myself. It's been dragging for too long. I missed out a lot of things in life just because of that. Society anxiety disorder is the biggest challenge of my life that I couldn't tackle. I'd always think that my life could be much better if I'm not being plagued by this or is it really a blessing in disguise? IDK, I just wishes that I could overcome it.
My shyness meter will suddenly going way up and it's more than usual. Mind goes blank and what are those 2 women staring at?! Are they talking about me? I bet they are. I feel so awkward now. Now everyone is looking at my direction. Oh dear, they must be scrutinizing everything about me. Voices are getting louder and my chest is getting tight now.
I can my blood drowning away from my head and my cheeks feel so cold. Feeling like a moron standing here. I have no idea whether to walk or stand or even where to look. Is the clock still ticking? That's it. Just run and get the hell out from here.
At least everything seems normal out here, except for me. I don't feel right myself. It's been dragging for too long. I missed out a lot of things in life just because of that. Society anxiety disorder is the biggest challenge of my life that I couldn't tackle. I'd always think that my life could be much better if I'm not being plagued by this or is it really a blessing in disguise? IDK, I just wishes that I could overcome it.
Friday, November 18, 2011
My Perfect Chawan Mushi
Better grab a quick lunch just before the lunch hour rush starts. A little indulgence just to keep myself sane from the hectic work.
Dobin Mushi
Tuna Handroll, it's a must for me to dip it with wasabi-soy and mayonnaise
Dobin Mushi
Tuna Handroll, it's a must for me to dip it with wasabi-soy and mayonnaise
This is the best Chawan Mushi I had. Don't know how to put it in words but I just love it
Dessert has always been the highlight of my meals. Green tea ice cream with corn flakes.
It's A Dog Eats Dog World
Do you fully understand the "Dog eats dog world" statement?
Baby Chantelle Elise enlightened me on this subject last night. See how she kept gnawing non-stop at this doggy soft toy.
I just can't understand why she loves soft toys more than her own puppies.
Baby Chantelle Elise enlightened me on this subject last night. See how she kept gnawing non-stop at this doggy soft toy.
I just can't understand why she loves soft toys more than her own puppies.
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A Bowl Of Warm Laksa
Nothing beats a warm bowl of home cooked laksa after coming back from work. I can have as much chilli paste and fish flakes that I want. Ahh...the satisfaction of it..
My nephew called this toothpaste leave..(ignore my chipped nail polish please)
My nephew called this toothpaste leave..(ignore my chipped nail polish please)
Anticipated For The Light To Turn Red
Am I the only one that ever anticipated for the traffic light to turn red sooner or a longer wait at the red light?
Most of the time I would impatiently cursing the car in front for making a slow move after the light turned green or stepping on the pedal harder when the light turned yellow with some exception:
When they have this heart shaped red light
Like when I was having my meal in the car
And also when I was working on some war paint on my face
I received a lot of amused expressions in the cars next to me. It's either they thought I'm a vain pot or they must be feeling very hungry and that double quarter pounder with cheese I was holding was making them drooling.
Most of the time I would impatiently cursing the car in front for making a slow move after the light turned green or stepping on the pedal harder when the light turned yellow with some exception:
When they have this heart shaped red light
Like when I was having my meal in the car
And also when I was working on some war paint on my face
I received a lot of amused expressions in the cars next to me. It's either they thought I'm a vain pot or they must be feeling very hungry and that double quarter pounder with cheese I was holding was making them drooling.
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Monday, November 14, 2011
CHILDREN RESPECTING CHILDREN
United against Prejudice and Discrimination
Every child has the right to be safe and free from prejudice and discrimination. Sometimes, however, children themselves unknowingly discriminate against other children basing their prejudices on race, religion, social class, colour, gender, background, obesity, disability, HIV status or other personal characteristics.
Name calling, poking fun, mimicry or not playing with someone because she or he is different are some of the ways children discriminate against their peers. Such behaviours can lead to stigma and social exclusion for many children. Worse, it can also result in abuse, harassment and bullying.
Non-discrimination is crucial to secure a child’s fundamental rights and freedoms. The Convention on the Rights of the Child, a legal treaty which Malaysia ratified in 1995, upholds that no child should be the victim of discriminatory acts; and that children are equally responsible for respecting these rights.
As a society, we must help our children develop positive attitudes. The responsibility to protect children from all forms of discrimination, prejudice and abuse, including bullying, is the responsibility of parents, teachers, and other adults in the community who are in contact with children.
Universal Children’s Day
Teach Respect, in honour of Universal Children’s Day on 20 November, aims to empower adults and children alike to promote fairness, empathy and mutual respect in their communities.
Every child has the right to be safe and free from prejudice and discrimination. Sometimes, however, children themselves unknowingly discriminate against other children basing their prejudices on race, religion, social class, colour, gender, background, obesity, disability, HIV status or other personal characteristics.
Name calling, poking fun, mimicry or not playing with someone because she or he is different are some of the ways children discriminate against their peers. Such behaviours can lead to stigma and social exclusion for many children. Worse, it can also result in abuse, harassment and bullying.
Non-discrimination is crucial to secure a child’s fundamental rights and freedoms. The Convention on the Rights of the Child, a legal treaty which Malaysia ratified in 1995, upholds that no child should be the victim of discriminatory acts; and that children are equally responsible for respecting these rights.
As a society, we must help our children develop positive attitudes. The responsibility to protect children from all forms of discrimination, prejudice and abuse, including bullying, is the responsibility of parents, teachers, and other adults in the community who are in contact with children.
Universal Children’s Day
Teach Respect, in honour of Universal Children’s Day on 20 November, aims to empower adults and children alike to promote fairness, empathy and mutual respect in their communities.
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Sunday, November 13, 2011
Bourgeois Me
People called me high maintenance,snobby, bourgeois and spoiled. What's wrong for having strong inclination for better things in life? Better food, better clothes or even better friends, don't everyone wished for those? Who wants to eat food scrap or wear torn and smelly clothes or befriend some cheapskate friends that give you problems? Raise your hands if anyone of you prefer those. Funny huh?
At least I earned those labels and they doesn't come for free.
At least I earned those labels and they doesn't come for free.
Saturday, November 12, 2011
My Face Improvisation
It was bewildering when my bestie Danielle told me how some people are speculating that I had some plastic surgeries done. I mean even someone like me can get involved in such speculation?! I don't whether to cry or laugh, is it a compliment or an insult? Shall I have a press conference to clarify that or get a plastic surgeon's evaluation?
I don't see anything so UNHOLY about going for plastic surgeries. No big deal! I never object to the idea of getting my face or body fixed and in fact I had so many parts of me that I would like to improvise. I wish that my nose is smaller like those character in Japanese manga, thicker lips like Angelina Jolie, taller like those models in the international runway, fairer skin like Dita Von Teese, bigger boobs like Scarlett Johansson and so much more. All these are unreachable for me because I'm afraid of going under the knife and I'm a timidly cat. Also I'm not loaded.
I don't rule out the possibility if I've gathered enough courage and money someday when I'm desperate enough. Right now I will just have to settle for whatever I have. then I will inform everyone when the FACE & BODY IMPROVISATION PROJECT starts. Meanwhile those people who speculated about me must be having some serious problem with their eye sights. Go see some optometrist and get your eyes fixed.
I don't see anything so UNHOLY about going for plastic surgeries. No big deal! I never object to the idea of getting my face or body fixed and in fact I had so many parts of me that I would like to improvise. I wish that my nose is smaller like those character in Japanese manga, thicker lips like Angelina Jolie, taller like those models in the international runway, fairer skin like Dita Von Teese, bigger boobs like Scarlett Johansson and so much more. All these are unreachable for me because I'm afraid of going under the knife and I'm a timidly cat. Also I'm not loaded.
I don't rule out the possibility if I've gathered enough courage and money someday when I'm desperate enough. Right now I will just have to settle for whatever I have. then I will inform everyone when the FACE & BODY IMPROVISATION PROJECT starts. Meanwhile those people who speculated about me must be having some serious problem with their eye sights. Go see some optometrist and get your eyes fixed.
Stones and Sticks Might Break Our Bones
I'm so glad to be able to know a few girl friends that are in the same situation like me. Someone who really how I feel and what I experienced without me having to elaborate much. Just a few simple sentences are all we ever need to express our dissatisfaction.
We've been cursed, back stabbed, smeared and scratched by those out of our circle. People cursed us for all things bad ahead of us. Idiots who back stabbed us thinking that we won't know what they did. Bitches tried to smear our reputation with some malicious lies and scumbags that had too much free time that actually use some effort to scratch our cars and everything else that we had. We've been called all sorts of horrible names such as loose women, husband or boyfriend stealer's, old maid and there's simply too much to further elaborate.
I really can't figure out why we are being treated like this? Just because that we are more career minded and we put everything else behind that? Just because we didn't get married earlier and cook for the husband every day? Just because we didn't have any kids yet and spending time cleaning up after them or shout at them like a mad woman when they get too naughty? Do all that really justify what we are being labelled?
My girl friend rejected this guy and he had the audacity to ask whether she's gay? What was this guy thinking? Is he the best in the world and one must be crazy for not falling at his feet? We really agreed that it was the best decision that my girl friend had made by rejecting him. He's a moron.
None of us really deserve what has been said about us but that's the fact of life. Bitter people with people with too much time. They like to spend time hating us and hatching some stupid plans to make our lives miserable. I believe in karma, do what you want for they will come back three folds to you but we don't think we'll be free to see that happens. We are just too busy with our lives.
We've been cursed, back stabbed, smeared and scratched by those out of our circle. People cursed us for all things bad ahead of us. Idiots who back stabbed us thinking that we won't know what they did. Bitches tried to smear our reputation with some malicious lies and scumbags that had too much free time that actually use some effort to scratch our cars and everything else that we had. We've been called all sorts of horrible names such as loose women, husband or boyfriend stealer's, old maid and there's simply too much to further elaborate.
I really can't figure out why we are being treated like this? Just because that we are more career minded and we put everything else behind that? Just because we didn't get married earlier and cook for the husband every day? Just because we didn't have any kids yet and spending time cleaning up after them or shout at them like a mad woman when they get too naughty? Do all that really justify what we are being labelled?
My girl friend rejected this guy and he had the audacity to ask whether she's gay? What was this guy thinking? Is he the best in the world and one must be crazy for not falling at his feet? We really agreed that it was the best decision that my girl friend had made by rejecting him. He's a moron.
None of us really deserve what has been said about us but that's the fact of life. Bitter people with people with too much time. They like to spend time hating us and hatching some stupid plans to make our lives miserable. I believe in karma, do what you want for they will come back three folds to you but we don't think we'll be free to see that happens. We are just too busy with our lives.
Stupid Auto Correct
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Yaeba
I always think that girls shouldn't have over perfect teeth. Imperfections such as a tiny gap or a slight overbite or even snaggle teeth somehow are very appealing. Teeth that are too straight or over bleached look too manufactured to me.
I had this slight overbite, some called it the 'rabbit teeth' that had been the source of my mouth ulcers. I tend to bite myself if I eat too fast and the pain from the ulcers will last for days. But I had no idea why I never bothered to fix it at all. I wish to wear braces just because I think they made you look kinda cute with all those colors that you can choose from but with a condition that they'll leave my overbite alone. No dentist can promise me that though.
Vampirism has been a very fascinating subject to me ever since I started on Anne Rice's books. Vampire fangs are very sexy, I think. The way they shaped the lips when they are hidden. IDK, call me nuts if you like but I just can't stop admiring their teeth. My sister used to had snaggle teeth but she had it removed. I would never remove them if I were her.
Now that the Yaeba thingy is in range, I might stand a chance to own some snaggle teeth too. Kristen Dunst has them too and she looked so perfect in her part as a vampire in the movie.
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Friday, November 11, 2011
The Dawn Is Breaking
Synopsis
In the highly anticipated next chapter of the blockbuster The Twilight Saga, the newfound married bliss of Bella Swan (Kristen Stewart) and vampire Edward Cullen (Robert Pattinson) is cut short when a series of betrayals and misfortunes threatens to destroy their world. After their wedding, Bella and Edward travel to Rio de Janeiro for their honeymoon, where they finally give in to their passions. Bella soon discovers she is pregnant, and during a nearly fatal childbirth, Edward finally fulfills her wish to become immortal. But the arrival of their remarkable daughter, Renesmee, sets in motion a perilous chain of events that pits the Cullens and their allies against the Volturi, the fearsome council of vampire leaders, setting the stage for an all-out battle. The suspenseful and deeply romantic Breaking Dawn continues the epic tale of supernatural fantasy and passionate love that has made The Twilight Saga a worldwide phenomenon.
What would Bella’s wedding vows to Edward be?
This is my version:
I,Bella take thee Edward as my wedded husband,to have and to hold from this day forward and for eternity. Here I give thee my life to keep for my blood is your blood and my bone is your bone. Our body and spirit merge as one and no death could do us apart and thereunto I Plight thee my troth.
Do the right thing. Get on board. Stop child abuse!
MYTH 1:
It’s only abuse if there is physical violence.
FACT:
Physical abuse is just one form of abuse. Children can also be harmed by emotional abuse, sexual abuse and neglect. These types of abuse are usually hidden from sight and, as a result, people are less likely to take action and help the children.
It’s only abuse if there is physical violence.
FACT:
Physical abuse is just one form of abuse. Children can also be harmed by emotional abuse, sexual abuse and neglect. These types of abuse are usually hidden from sight and, as a result, people are less likely to take action and help the children.
MYTH 2:
Only bad people abuse. Good people don’t.
FACT:
Not all abusers are bad and want to harm their children intentionally. Some abusers may have been victims of abuse themselves, and grew up not knowing any other way of parenting or treating children. Others may be struggling with mental health problems, alcohol and drug addiction and other personal problems.
Only bad people abuse. Good people don’t.
FACT:
Not all abusers are bad and want to harm their children intentionally. Some abusers may have been victims of abuse themselves, and grew up not knowing any other way of parenting or treating children. Others may be struggling with mental health problems, alcohol and drug addiction and other personal problems.
MYTH 3:
Many children do not know their abusers.
FACT:
Although some children are abused by complete strangers, many actually know their abusers and trust them. Abusers are most commonly family members, or someone who is close to the family and the child.
Many children do not know their abusers.
FACT:
Although some children are abused by complete strangers, many actually know their abusers and trust them. Abusers are most commonly family members, or someone who is close to the family and the child.
MYTH 4:
Child abuse doesn’t happen in “good” families and wealthy households.
FACT:
Child abuse can happen in any household, regardless of ethnic background, culture, religion or economic status. Sometimes, a family that seems to have it all can hide a different story behind closed doors.
Child abuse doesn’t happen in “good” families and wealthy households.
FACT:
Child abuse can happen in any household, regardless of ethnic background, culture, religion or economic status. Sometimes, a family that seems to have it all can hide a different story behind closed doors.
MYTH 5:
Many adults who suffered abuse in childhood are not affected by this abuse in adult life.
FACT:
Although some adults manage to cope with abuse they suffered as children, many remain deeply affected in adult life. It is not easy to just get over child abuse. Survivors of child abuse need care and support to overcome the trauma of abuse and live full healthy lives.
Many adults who suffered abuse in childhood are not affected by this abuse in adult life.
FACT:
Although some adults manage to cope with abuse they suffered as children, many remain deeply affected in adult life. It is not easy to just get over child abuse. Survivors of child abuse need care and support to overcome the trauma of abuse and live full healthy lives.
MYTH 6:
Abused children will definitely grow up to be abusers.
FACT:
Some survivors of child abuse may unconsciously repeat the violent or abusive treatment that they experienced as a child. However, many have a strong motivation to protect their own children from experiencing what they had suffered and, instead, become wonderful parents.
Abused children will definitely grow up to be abusers.
FACT:
Some survivors of child abuse may unconsciously repeat the violent or abusive treatment that they experienced as a child. However, many have a strong motivation to protect their own children from experiencing what they had suffered and, instead, become wonderful parents.
MYTH 7:
A child is responsible for the abuse that he/she suffers.
FACT:
A child is never responsible for the abuse he/she suffers. The responsibility for abuse lies solely with the offender. In the case of sexual abuse, offenders often try to shift the blame for their actions by accusing the child of being promiscuous or seductive, especially if it involves a teenager.
A child is responsible for the abuse that he/she suffers.
FACT:
A child is never responsible for the abuse he/she suffers. The responsibility for abuse lies solely with the offender. In the case of sexual abuse, offenders often try to shift the blame for their actions by accusing the child of being promiscuous or seductive, especially if it involves a teenager.
MYTH 8:
Children lie about being sexually abused.
FACT:
It is extremely rare for children to lie about being sexually abused. In reality, children may not want to disclose sexual abuse because they are embarrassed, afraid or uncomfortable.
Children lie about being sexually abused.
FACT:
It is extremely rare for children to lie about being sexually abused. In reality, children may not want to disclose sexual abuse because they are embarrassed, afraid or uncomfortable.
Q&A: GET ON BOARD CAMPAIGN
What is the Get On Board Campaign About?
Get on Board is a "people's campaign" by UNICEF to provide the Malaysian public with a platform to learn and respond to child abuse in the country. The digitally driven campaign, a first by UNICEF in the region, aims to strengthen public understanding of child abuse by providing information on the types of abuse, why it could happen and how to recognise symptoms in an abused child. It also hopes to empower the public to act on behalf of children by equipping them with protection solutions, parenting tips, action ideas and a directory of important resources. The campaign will run for two months. It was launched on 6 October in Kuala Lumpur and will culminate on 10 December (in conjunction with Human Rights Day). The finale will be hosted by UNICEF together with the Ministry of Women, Family and Community Development and a local NGO, Childline Malaysia.
Why is this campaign important?
Despite significant strides made by the Government of Malaysia to improve child protection measures in recent years, statistics from the Department of Social Welfare show a rise in reported child abuse cases in the country. In 2008, 2,780 cases of child abuse were reported compared to 2,279 in 2007 and 1,999 in 2006. While these figures in itself are worrying, we fear that it does not tell the true story about child abuse in the country. Because these figures represent only reported cases, it does not tell us anything about the scope, magnitude and reasons for child abuse in Malaysia. We also believe that the rise in the number of reported cases could be related to both a limited public understanding about child abuse; and its consequences on children as well as limited awareness about what actions can be taken on an individual level to prevent child abuse from occurring. The 'Get on Board' campaign is aimed at addressing these challenges. The campaign is anchored on the principle that "We Need to Know" - to know and understand more about the trends of child abuse in the country, to know more about how to recognise symptoms, and to know how we can respond as individuals. The adage that ignorance is bliss could not be farther from the truth, particularly in the context of child abuse. Knowledge is the key to our success. It gives us the power to govern ourselves, our households, and ultimately our communities.
What does this campaign hope to achieve?
We want this campaign to make child abuse everyone's business. Statistics alone do not tell us enough about the extent of abuse in a population, the severity of abuse over time or why abuse is occurring. This is why we are calling for public support for action to better understand the extent of abusive behaviour in the general population and the reasons behind it. This will help the Government design evidence-based interventions to protect children from abuse and ensure them a safe and healthy childhood. A study on child abuse and its root causes would also help establish benchmarks for the measurement of child abuse, against which it would be possible to monitor future changes and trends in the abuse of children, and in public attitudes towards it. Just as important, the campaign aims to inform the public about child abuse, why it could happen, how to recognise symptoms in a child and inspire the public to act on behalf of children by equipping them with protection tips and action ideas.
Will this campaign put an end to abuse?
The Get on Board campaign is about providing the people of Malaysia with a platform to unite against child abuse in the country by learning more and doing more. When more people are engaged on the issue, the closer we are to ensuring the safety of our children. Child abuse prevention efforts however must build on family strengths since parents are recognised to have the most important role in raising their children. Through prevention activities such as parent education, home visitation, and parent support groups, many families can find the support they need to stay together and care for their children in their homes and communities. Prevention efforts should help parents develop their parenting skills, understand the benefits of nonviolent discipline techniques, and understand and meet their child's emotional, physical, and developmental needs. Prevention programs should also help parents identify other needs they may have; and provide assistance to parents in getting that additional support.
Why should I care about this campaign?
According to the statistics from the Department of Social Welfare, 7 children on average were abused each day in 2008. Each of these children has within themselves the potential to be a leader; to excel at education; and to have a family. When this child is abused, that potential is both poisoned and limited. This future leader then becomes a drain on society; a victim rather than a solution. Sure, this does not happen in every case; and we have in fact seen incredibly resilient and brave people who have found ways to rise above their situations; and even help others do the same. Aside from its impact on a child's life, child abuse also has the potential to spread. People who were abused as children are much more likely to end up mimicking that abusive behavior with their own children. The problems associated with child abuse will only continue and likely grow larger without active attempts to end it. Child abuse victims may also have difficulties in school, leading to poorer employment prospects later in life and placing the victim at higher risk of living in poverty. Child abuse victims can also experience social and psychological problems that cause them to become isolated from general society. They might also turn to alcohol or drugs as ways of escape and risk becoming dependent on these substances. These situations can all contribute to making the victim more likely to act in ways harmful to society, such as criminal activity, violence and continuing the pattern of abuse. With increased criminal activity, there will be a greater need for laws to be enforced, and the need for more police and other law enforcement officials. While the effects of child abuse are hard to quantify in many respects, one way that they can be measured is in the Ringgit spent in dealing with its consequences - these include healthcare and mental health care services and legal costs.
What resources and support will UNICEF provide to people interested to participate?
The campaign website www.uniteagainstabuse.my will remain open indefinitely to serve as a one-stop repository for users to gain knowledge, insights, advice and resources on child abuse and how to prevent and respond to it. The website will also provide resources and contact information for concerned Malaysians to band together and rally against child abuse in any form. Fact sheets are also available for the media as well as individuals and organisations to download to champion the cause and embark on their own outreach campaigns.
How can I support the 'Get on Board' Campaign?
Each of us is responsible for transforming our communities into places that care about - and actively support - families and children. Each of us must pay attention to the kinds of efforts that will prevent child abuse from happening in the first place. We all need to learn more about what we can do individually and within our communities to prevent child abuse.
The Get on Board website offers the Malaysian public a platform to unite and show their support to stopping child abuse. By logging online to www.uniteagainstabuse.my, concerned and caring individuals can show their support by:
•Learning more about child abuse. The website provides resources and opportunities to engage, educate and empower all of us to protect children from abuse.
•Signing up to the campaign. They do this by creating their own unique "Hand" symbol which can be used as their Facebook profile picture or on other social media to show solidarity across the country to end child abuse.
•Sharing materials on the website with their friends, loved ones and colleagues. All information on the website has Facebook and Twitter sharing capabilities so that users can help spread the word on how we can stop child abuse.
We hope that the information from the website will inspire the public to begin conversations about protecting children from abuse. Conversations that will take place over a neighbour's fence, at the office coffee machine, while in queue at the bank or grocer as well as through letters to editors and on the internet through blogs, tweets and facebook updates. But most important to the abused child, we hope the campaign will equip the public with the confidence to stay alert for children, and to report suspected abuse immediately by calling 15999.
What is the Get On Board Campaign About?
Get on Board is a "people's campaign" by UNICEF to provide the Malaysian public with a platform to learn and respond to child abuse in the country. The digitally driven campaign, a first by UNICEF in the region, aims to strengthen public understanding of child abuse by providing information on the types of abuse, why it could happen and how to recognise symptoms in an abused child. It also hopes to empower the public to act on behalf of children by equipping them with protection solutions, parenting tips, action ideas and a directory of important resources. The campaign will run for two months. It was launched on 6 October in Kuala Lumpur and will culminate on 10 December (in conjunction with Human Rights Day). The finale will be hosted by UNICEF together with the Ministry of Women, Family and Community Development and a local NGO, Childline Malaysia.
Why is this campaign important?
Despite significant strides made by the Government of Malaysia to improve child protection measures in recent years, statistics from the Department of Social Welfare show a rise in reported child abuse cases in the country. In 2008, 2,780 cases of child abuse were reported compared to 2,279 in 2007 and 1,999 in 2006. While these figures in itself are worrying, we fear that it does not tell the true story about child abuse in the country. Because these figures represent only reported cases, it does not tell us anything about the scope, magnitude and reasons for child abuse in Malaysia. We also believe that the rise in the number of reported cases could be related to both a limited public understanding about child abuse; and its consequences on children as well as limited awareness about what actions can be taken on an individual level to prevent child abuse from occurring. The 'Get on Board' campaign is aimed at addressing these challenges. The campaign is anchored on the principle that "We Need to Know" - to know and understand more about the trends of child abuse in the country, to know more about how to recognise symptoms, and to know how we can respond as individuals. The adage that ignorance is bliss could not be farther from the truth, particularly in the context of child abuse. Knowledge is the key to our success. It gives us the power to govern ourselves, our households, and ultimately our communities.
What does this campaign hope to achieve?
We want this campaign to make child abuse everyone's business. Statistics alone do not tell us enough about the extent of abuse in a population, the severity of abuse over time or why abuse is occurring. This is why we are calling for public support for action to better understand the extent of abusive behaviour in the general population and the reasons behind it. This will help the Government design evidence-based interventions to protect children from abuse and ensure them a safe and healthy childhood. A study on child abuse and its root causes would also help establish benchmarks for the measurement of child abuse, against which it would be possible to monitor future changes and trends in the abuse of children, and in public attitudes towards it. Just as important, the campaign aims to inform the public about child abuse, why it could happen, how to recognise symptoms in a child and inspire the public to act on behalf of children by equipping them with protection tips and action ideas.
Will this campaign put an end to abuse?
The Get on Board campaign is about providing the people of Malaysia with a platform to unite against child abuse in the country by learning more and doing more. When more people are engaged on the issue, the closer we are to ensuring the safety of our children. Child abuse prevention efforts however must build on family strengths since parents are recognised to have the most important role in raising their children. Through prevention activities such as parent education, home visitation, and parent support groups, many families can find the support they need to stay together and care for their children in their homes and communities. Prevention efforts should help parents develop their parenting skills, understand the benefits of nonviolent discipline techniques, and understand and meet their child's emotional, physical, and developmental needs. Prevention programs should also help parents identify other needs they may have; and provide assistance to parents in getting that additional support.
Why should I care about this campaign?
According to the statistics from the Department of Social Welfare, 7 children on average were abused each day in 2008. Each of these children has within themselves the potential to be a leader; to excel at education; and to have a family. When this child is abused, that potential is both poisoned and limited. This future leader then becomes a drain on society; a victim rather than a solution. Sure, this does not happen in every case; and we have in fact seen incredibly resilient and brave people who have found ways to rise above their situations; and even help others do the same. Aside from its impact on a child's life, child abuse also has the potential to spread. People who were abused as children are much more likely to end up mimicking that abusive behavior with their own children. The problems associated with child abuse will only continue and likely grow larger without active attempts to end it. Child abuse victims may also have difficulties in school, leading to poorer employment prospects later in life and placing the victim at higher risk of living in poverty. Child abuse victims can also experience social and psychological problems that cause them to become isolated from general society. They might also turn to alcohol or drugs as ways of escape and risk becoming dependent on these substances. These situations can all contribute to making the victim more likely to act in ways harmful to society, such as criminal activity, violence and continuing the pattern of abuse. With increased criminal activity, there will be a greater need for laws to be enforced, and the need for more police and other law enforcement officials. While the effects of child abuse are hard to quantify in many respects, one way that they can be measured is in the Ringgit spent in dealing with its consequences - these include healthcare and mental health care services and legal costs.
What resources and support will UNICEF provide to people interested to participate?
The campaign website www.uniteagainstabuse.my will remain open indefinitely to serve as a one-stop repository for users to gain knowledge, insights, advice and resources on child abuse and how to prevent and respond to it. The website will also provide resources and contact information for concerned Malaysians to band together and rally against child abuse in any form. Fact sheets are also available for the media as well as individuals and organisations to download to champion the cause and embark on their own outreach campaigns.
How can I support the 'Get on Board' Campaign?
Each of us is responsible for transforming our communities into places that care about - and actively support - families and children. Each of us must pay attention to the kinds of efforts that will prevent child abuse from happening in the first place. We all need to learn more about what we can do individually and within our communities to prevent child abuse.
The Get on Board website offers the Malaysian public a platform to unite and show their support to stopping child abuse. By logging online to www.uniteagainstabuse.my, concerned and caring individuals can show their support by:
•Learning more about child abuse. The website provides resources and opportunities to engage, educate and empower all of us to protect children from abuse.
•Signing up to the campaign. They do this by creating their own unique "Hand" symbol which can be used as their Facebook profile picture or on other social media to show solidarity across the country to end child abuse.
•Sharing materials on the website with their friends, loved ones and colleagues. All information on the website has Facebook and Twitter sharing capabilities so that users can help spread the word on how we can stop child abuse.
We hope that the information from the website will inspire the public to begin conversations about protecting children from abuse. Conversations that will take place over a neighbour's fence, at the office coffee machine, while in queue at the bank or grocer as well as through letters to editors and on the internet through blogs, tweets and facebook updates. But most important to the abused child, we hope the campaign will equip the public with the confidence to stay alert for children, and to report suspected abuse immediately by calling 15999.
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Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Hot to trotter: The pampered pink piglets who are hogging the limelight
These little piglets really love to hog the limelight - as this series of cute photographs show.
Dispelling the myth that pigs are dirty, these portraits capture the pretty porkers looking their best - proving that pigs can be divas too.
The hilarious shots capture the posing piglets hogging a huge pile of chocolate - before working off the calories while running on a treadmill.
Another image shows one little piggy who's clearly been to market - posing with a pile of shopping bags.
The adorable images were taken by photographer Bob Elsdale and creative director, Holly Brown - whose company, Wildside, dedicates itself to photographing and caring for young animals.
No porker: This little piggy prefers to work off the calories on a treadmill
There's snout cuter: Two little piglets vie for centre stage
‘They become so used to human contact that having their photo becomes a game to them - all the pigs we've had have loved playing up to the camera.
He added that the pigs tend to be divas who love having their picture taken and that they never make the pigs pose if they're not happy and enjoying it.
While they're often happy to play with the props it can take hours to get exactly the right pose, he said.
Went to market: This little piggy looks like she's had a day at the shops
The family persuade the pigs to pose in the hilarious poses by rewarding them with their favourite treat - Camembert.
‘Our first piglet, Rosie, came to live with us when she was just four days old, and became part of the family in no time.
‘She was probably one of the best fed piglets on the planet and had a particular love of Camembert - she was taught to sit, lie down and stay, all on the promise of cheese.
Four squeal drive: This piglet looks like she likes fast cars
Via Daily Mail
Dispelling the myth that pigs are dirty, these portraits capture the pretty porkers looking their best - proving that pigs can be divas too.
The hilarious shots capture the posing piglets hogging a huge pile of chocolate - before working off the calories while running on a treadmill.
Another image shows one little piggy who's clearly been to market - posing with a pile of shopping bags.
The adorable images were taken by photographer Bob Elsdale and creative director, Holly Brown - whose company, Wildside, dedicates itself to photographing and caring for young animals.
No porker: This little piggy prefers to work off the calories on a treadmill
There's snout cuter: Two little piglets vie for centre stage
‘They become so used to human contact that having their photo becomes a game to them - all the pigs we've had have loved playing up to the camera.
He added that the pigs tend to be divas who love having their picture taken and that they never make the pigs pose if they're not happy and enjoying it.
While they're often happy to play with the props it can take hours to get exactly the right pose, he said.
Went to market: This little piggy looks like she's had a day at the shops
The family persuade the pigs to pose in the hilarious poses by rewarding them with their favourite treat - Camembert.
‘Our first piglet, Rosie, came to live with us when she was just four days old, and became part of the family in no time.
‘She was probably one of the best fed piglets on the planet and had a particular love of Camembert - she was taught to sit, lie down and stay, all on the promise of cheese.
Four squeal drive: This piglet looks like she likes fast cars
Via Daily Mail
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
10 Things You Shouldn't Do Until You're "Exclusive"
Waiting until you're exclusive to have sex is too old-fashioned of a maxim to work for everyone, but there are other things that should happen only after you're committed...
1. Friend each others' friends on Facebook.
2. Stay in each other's bed/apartments while the other leaves for work.
3. Going to each other's work functions.
4. Ask each other to pick up anything remotely health related (tampons, sinus medicine, birth control, foot cream)
5. Have nights where you stay in and just watch tv.
6. Pee with the door open. (Or never! Never is also an option for this one!)
7. Introduce each other to your parents.
8. Make plans more than a week or two in advance. (Aka booking concert tickets for three months from now.)
9. "Pop by" each other's place of work, unexpectedly.
10. Each other's laundry.
Via The Date Report
1. Friend each others' friends on Facebook.
2. Stay in each other's bed/apartments while the other leaves for work.
3. Going to each other's work functions.
4. Ask each other to pick up anything remotely health related (tampons, sinus medicine, birth control, foot cream)
5. Have nights where you stay in and just watch tv.
6. Pee with the door open. (Or never! Never is also an option for this one!)
7. Introduce each other to your parents.
8. Make plans more than a week or two in advance. (Aka booking concert tickets for three months from now.)
9. "Pop by" each other's place of work, unexpectedly.
10. Each other's laundry.
Via The Date Report
Monday, November 7, 2011
Something Just Isn't Right About Her
Her smile bears a striking resemblance to that woman. The woman that stole another woman's husband and do all sorts of dirty tactics to oust the poor woman. I don't hold any grudge against being the other woman but I think that one shouldn't cross the lines beyond that. I've seen them schemed and plotted to topple the first wives.
The same woman who wears a mask and pretended to be my friend when in fact I don't what makes her hates me so much. She must be some psychopath. I have no idea why I always managed to attract these kind one women in my life. I almost lost count how many I've met one and ran away from. Why do these women hate me so much?
And now I met another woman who reminded me of her. The smile, the over friendliness and so on. Am I being too sensitive or something just isn't right about her?
The same woman who wears a mask and pretended to be my friend when in fact I don't what makes her hates me so much. She must be some psychopath. I have no idea why I always managed to attract these kind one women in my life. I almost lost count how many I've met one and ran away from. Why do these women hate me so much?
And now I met another woman who reminded me of her. The smile, the over friendliness and so on. Am I being too sensitive or something just isn't right about her?
My Childhood Crushes
When I was still a naive kid, I had a crush on some guys. You know childhood crush?
My standard of guy meter was way different from what has revolutionized today. How could I thought those guys were hunky back then? Must be some rose tinted glasses that had be been broken by the harsh reality that I've endured all these years.
Guys that I thought was good looking, smart...whatever back then were a total train wreck today. Total loss. Oh my God, I don't even dare to admit who they were now. Just don't ask me to name names. It's so embarrasing. I want to dig a hole and bury my head in it. I hope my besties will keep these secrets and never bring them up ever.
It were indeed some blessing above that those were only some one sided crushes from my side. Only God knows what will it be like today if it developed further than that.
Those are what nightmares are made from....shivering
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Sunday, November 6, 2011
Celebrity Pets
Glamourpuss Jane Fonda’s pooch, Tulea enjoys life in the spotlight as much as her celebrated owner – here she is pictured before her TV debut on The David Letterman Show in NYC.
Actress Emmy Rossum’s Yorkie, Cinnamon, knows how to work a red carpet or two.
Could Shakira’s pooch BE any cuter? Spotted here at the She Wolf singer’s farm, La Colorada, in Uruguay, Shakira and her basset hound share a cuddle. Aw.
Ashley Tisdale of High School Musical fame is never far from her cute Maltipoo, Maui.
Rachel Bilson gets our vote as the most stylish dog walker, or should that be carrier – enjoying an afternoon stroll in this gorgeous sun dress with her cute pup, Thurmen Murmen (we just love a dog with a last name!)
Were there ever a more glamorous pairing than gorgeous actress Eva Green and her much-loved Border Terrier? The star had to leave her pooch in her native Paris when she set up home recently in London because dogs are not allowed on the Eurostar. Eva said at the time: “I’m thinking about faking blindness…because you can’t take your dog on the Eurostar unless you’re blind. I love my dog so much - he’s basically my husband.”
Woman’s best Friends… Jennifer Aniston and her gorgeous German Shepherd Dolly are inseparable. The actress is an avid dog fan and even appeared on the cover of Elle magazine with her 14-year-old Corgi-Terrier mix, Norman.
Oscar-winning actress Charlize Theron loves nothing more than a run along malibu beach with her two dogs, Delilah and Denver.
Gorgeous actor Orlando Bloom rescued his constant companion Sidi when the black Labrador was just three weeks old. The actor, who was filming epic blockbuster Kingdom of Heaven in Morocco at the time, revealed: "I picked him up, and I said, 'Let's get him cleaned up and see what happens.' And then I ended up wanting him forever.” AW!
Another day, another Gossip Girl gets a tiny, fluffy pooch! This time it’s Jessica Szohr and her darling dog enjoying a cuddle on set.
Thank you Hugh Jackman and JJ - we love nothing more than a cute pic of a hot man and his beloved pooch!
Paris is devoted to her male Chihuahua, Tinkerbell – who has enjoyed a level of fame and notoriety almost as high as his socialite mistress. In 2004, Tinkerbell even "co-authored" the memoir, The Tinkerbell Hilton Diaries but, later that year, Tinkerbell was dog-napped after Hilton's apartment was burgled and a $5,000 reward was offered for her safe return. Luckily, she was found safe and well six days later.
These Gossip Girls just can’t get enough of their small, fluffy pooches. Here’s a glam Blake Lively enjoying an on-set cuddle with her minuscule, stuffed-toy-a-like pup, Penny.
We wish someone would carry us around in a bed all day. Hilary Duff's dog is one lucky pup.
We're pretty sure Alessandra Ambrosio's dog is made from cotton wool. Too cute.
We've fallen in love with Kristin Cavallari's adorable mini Terrier.
Mary-Kate Olsen's sausage dog is so cute, we almost forgot to check out her outfit. Almost. Cute skirt.
Is Selma Blair's dog smiling at the camera? This dog was born to be in the limelight.
Via Glamour
Thursday, November 3, 2011
The Supermodels Playing Duran Duran
Model behaviour: The ladies appear on the front cover of Harper's Bazaar this month
Leader of the pack: Naomi Campbell takes the lead as Simon Le Bon
Guitar heroes: Yamins Le Bon and Cindy Crawford handle their instruments like seasoned pros
Guitar heroes: Yamins Le Bon and Cindy Crawford handle their instruments like seasoned pros
Drumming up support: Helena Christensen puts her sticks to work as Roger Taylor
Note perfect: Eva Herzigova wears a fitted white suit for her turn as Nick Rhodes
Rock on! (l-r) Cindy Crawford, Helen Christensen, Naomi Campbell, Eva Herzigova and Yasmin LeBon imitate Duran Duran for a photoshoot in the latest issue of Harper's Bazaar
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